Day 2 sober

Couldn’t think of a witty or more interesting title for my first blog post, but it says it all. Today is my second day sober and I have chosen to share my journey publicly (albeit anonymously).

As a wife and mother in her early 40’s who, on the outside “has it all”, I’m desperately seeking sobriety. It’s gone too far, from occasionally having my first drink in the morning (on my days off work) to getting home from work and gulping down a few glasses of wine to get that buzz quickly. Stashing drinks in the laundry cupboard (good spot because it’s rarely used by anyone other than me) and pouring booze into a mug so the kids think I’m drinking tea. Secretly throwing out bottles/cans so my family don’t know how much I’ve really drank, having to skip the kids’ after-school activities because I had one too many during the day to drive them, taking sick days off work because I was terribly hungover or even worse still too drunk to drive. The list of shame goes on.

There have been brief periods over the past 2 years where I have been sober but now I have reached a point where I HAVE to drink every day. I simply cannot have a wine or 2 a few nights a week, my addiction is telling me I MUST have alcohol everyday no matter what. But it’s just not fun anymore and it is damaging my life.

My husband drinks pretty much every night but doesn’t have that “I gotta drink” mentality that I do. For some reason it doesn’t bother me that he would drink and I wouldn’t, but to be where others are drinking, even at a small family gathering, I would fine painful. I’m that person that gets smashed anywhere alcohol is permitted (and have even been at ones that alcohol isn’t) and more than likely had a few before even leaving the house no matter what time of the day.

So what led me to seeking a sober life? Yesterday, otherwise known as Day 1 Sober, I took a good long hard look at myself in the mirror. My face was terribly bloated, my work pants didn’t fit me anymore, I looked so unhealthy and dull. So on the outside here I am being all cheery, laughing along with colleagues and people that come into my workplace. Forcing smiles but then feeling flat throughout the day. I texted husband asking if we had any wine at home and yes we did. Got home from work and told myself to have a shower first rather than my usual sit down, have a few glasses of wine and chat to kids while “checking” my social media. Also included in my usual routine on my work days is to still be sitting around in my uniform til late at night still drinking and “checking” my social media. So a routine change was to be at hand if I was to be free of this alcohol addiction.

Had shower and got dressed into pyjamas. As I sat down to dinner I grabbed my water bottle rather than a wine glass, and realised how tired and drained I was. I literally felt like I needed to just lay in the warmth of my bed and hide away for the night, so I did.

Sleep was long and satisfying but with some strange dreams. Woke up this morning feeling flat and too cosy to get out of bed. Kids are great, they feed themselves and watch TV but I do think this is because of those many mornings experiencing a hungover and almost non existent mother hiding out in her bedroom. One thing that I am working on through my sobriety is to be more present mother and wife.

So here I am Day 2 of being Sober. Or I like the term “undrunk”. My short term goals? To take one day at a time, to lose a few kilos, to regain my fitness. And long term goals are to reach my full potential in life as a person, a wife, a mother and as a friend. To me alcohol made itself it’s number 1 meaning/friend/reward/priority so I gave little time and effort to the other relationships surrounding me. Like I’ve mentioned, without blowing my own horn, I’ve been blessed with a loving husband and great children and all-round awesome life, something quite amazing due to my dismal childhood.

Bit of my background to be shared in my next post….


9 thoughts on “Day 2 sober”

  1. hi there, i love your courage and your honesty. you are doing great! hang in there. if you ever decide to get more support for your sober journey, you might want to try alcoholics anonymous. but if attending meetings in person is not your speed, there are also supportive online sober blogs. my blog is not about sobriety, but i am an alcoholic in recovery if you ever want to stop by. i will be back to read and cheer you on. congrats on your two days of sobriety! best wishes! ~maria


  2. I can relate so much. I am new here too. I am a 40 something mom, and had to start over at the of 40 after 18 years of marriage. I lost the life I was knew to the solace I found in a bottle. I would put wine in my coffee, with my coffee(oh the thought now), just gross!! If you read my blog, you can see my attempts at how I came to drink to never not be sober. I did not think I could do sober. I had a slit in the lining of my purse where all my alcohol hid. No one knew, because my wallet amd other must haves sat over the top. I am 3 years, and 8 months sober. I will daily read your blog, as I love a naked heart. Keep on keeping on. For the clarity of mind I have now, amd happiness I would not trade for a single dance with what was my only friend(so I thought)…best & blessings in your journey. Stop by my blog, as I am new too. I find great healing telling my story…Lisa


    1. Hi Lisa, thanks for your comment. I take a lot of hope from your story and that you have been sober 3 years and 8 months, so well done to you. I will most definitely check out your blog, thanks.


  3. Hey. You’ve taken a great step. Being able to acknowledge the places where your addiction took over, is to be commended. Some addicts/alcoholics cannot do that. But you’re standing up and owning it…. That’s a great place to be in on your journey.
    My friend is a recovering alcoholic and while chatting, I told her I wouldn’t be happy if she drank again. Her response was along the lines of she would never pick up a drink again. But… It doesn’t always work like that. Lapses happen, but it’s how quickly you get back up that counts. Maybe she never will, but I’d rather she still had that fear than not.
    Anyway, keep writing, keep posting​ and you never know who you might help by writing this blog 😊 Have a great weekend, and welcome to the WordPress community!! ☺


    1. Thanks for your comment Victoria. I’m totally standing up and owning it….just anonymously! Which is all I can bare at the moment. Very grateful to be able to off-load here and I know I can learn from other people’s experiences also. Thank you for the encouragement.

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  4. Welcome to the journey! You sound very insightful about what needs to change in your life. Trust yourself, treat yourself when you avoid temptation, and be kind to yourself as well. Getting sober is no easy task and I applaud your courage in taking this step!


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